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Turning Fear into Increased Psi

Written By: Cassandra L. ’Sandy’ Frost

Posted: 11/9/2004 12:00:00 AM   Reads: 1131   Submitted By:0x6a656666   Category: Remote Viewing
This is one of those pieces that zips around in my head so intensely, writing itself, that I had to get out of bed at 11:11 pm to let it flow out my fingers.  
Just kidding about the 11:11 thing.  
It’s really 11:44 pm.  
I started reading Joe McMoneagle’s latest, The Stargate Chronicles, a year ago last November. I’ve tried to read it so I can write a review, but I can’t seem to get through the first chapter.  
He describes being whacked around by an alcoholic Mom and reading that triggered my own Post Traumatic Stress Disorder or PTSD. 
I remembered interviewing Ed Dames, empathizing as he told me about how his Dad used the end of a 2x4 on him.  
I know of one viewer who, in my opinion, is currently a victim of domestic abuse; emotionally terrorized, controlled and violated; a virtual prisoner in their own home.  
I grew up in an alcoholic family and am no stranger to the helpless terror one feels as they face the irrational rage, screaming and beatings from a drunken, out of control parent.  
Whether we find ourselves writing about our childhood trauma, sharing with others or feeling that hopeless horror when we see or hear about it, dysfunction is dysfunction. It’s far easier to talk about it or help someone else rather than extricate our selves from such a nightmare.  
I helped my girl friend, Ruth, for about 8 years as she took the steps to leave her abusive husband. Her ex-husband shook her son so badly, his brain got scarred. This scarring has led to seizures.  
Today, she fights discrimination in small town America. She got her son a service dog that detects and alerts when her son begins to Grand Mal out but shopkeepers and her Mormon Bishop prohibit the service dog from accompanying her disabled son into their buildings.  
I’m not sure what drives a parent to beat on their kids or one spouse to utilize fear, guilt and intimidation to control and lord over the other.  
Insecurity? Maybe they were abused themselves?  
In these times of being surrounded by fear as the media beats the drums of terror and war, it’s important that we, as both parents and adult children, abused or not, try to exemplify compassion, acceptance and understanding, especially if we know that one of our friends or family members is being or has been abused.  
Many psychics feel that we’re different, separate and alone, often not a part of anything. 
We might look at our families, immediate and extended, and think ‘How can this be my family?’ We might feel that those we meet along our path with similar interests are more like family than anyone else. Or more like a clan or tribe. Sometimes we get the feeling that we’ve known each other before or, in exquisitely rare cases, that we’re soul mates. 
I believe that the roots of war and psychological terror can be found in one’s home, in our families.  
And, conversely, the seeds of peace.  
If you know someone like this, try to reach out and let him or her know you’re there.  
Be the kind word, the phone call or email that brightens their day.  
It might take years, like it did for Ruth, before that person can find the courage to get a plan together, decide that they’ve had enough and to make that final decision to say “Screw it” and walk out.  
Or they may have only 15 minutes, under police protection, to grab their things, stuff them in a black plastic trash sack and run out the door.  
Either way, the point is that there seems to be some sort of unfortunate correlation between being psychic and living in fear; feeling that ‘fight or flight’ instinct.  
I spoke on this very topic last year, “How to turn our current, war related feelings of fear and fight or flight into increased psychic awareness”.  
How can we do that?  
The best way to take advantage seemingly dark situations is to transmute our fear-based heightened sense of awareness into increased psychic awareness by doing things like sharing our feelings with others and/or meeting in small groups.  
Like I did that Tuesday night at my first public presentation.  
Before we started, one participant, Pete came up to me and asked me questions about remote viewing. I explained how RV started and grabbed some books to show him some drawings.  
‘I want proof,’ he challenged. 
‘OK,’ I answered.  
I trotted off to put a picture in an envelope. Then, we all sat around a big, square table. 
Our facilitator, Dan, began by asking us to all describe one of our psychic experiences. 
Then I was introduced and began my presentation about remote viewing.  
Everyone wanted to RVing something, so I reluctantly led him or her through the basics before I tasked them with a target.  
’I’m not a trainer. I just write about this stuff,’ I explained.  
I felt like Bones on Star Trek when he’d say ’Dammit, Jim, I’m a doctor, not a brick layer.’  
Or like Jack Ryan who’d mumble in the midst of some type of bullet-flying international crisis, ’I’m just an analyst.’  
However, the group’s results were astounding.  
Everyone had various aspects of the objective, some more accurate than others.  
Of course, Pete, the skeptic, did the best. If he had some colored pencils, he could have colored his sketch of leaves red, brown and gold, like the ones pictured in the envelope.  
As everyone shared his or her results, Dan stopped the meeting.  
We all stopped to watch Pete, who, like John Travolta in ‘Phenomenon’, was moving his pen top around on the table with his hand a few inches above it. We sat there and watched as he next rolled his pen back and forth, twice, without touching it.  
‘There is your proof,’ I announced.  
He, and everyone else, was amazed.  
This is the type of support and nurturing we can get as we gather in small groups to share our psychic selves. 
It’s so tough growing up sensitive and psychic. 
We’re labeled and compartmentalized into the “Looney bin” niche. We might describe ourselves as “crazy”. We might then be shunned as kids, forced to keep quiet about our experiences or ashamed of our abilities because we’re so different.  
As a result of these childhood feelings, we may become conditioned to be quiet and not speak up for ourselves in the face of an abuser, as they scream at us in a drunken rage, still spittingly furious about little things that happened years ago or things we did out of loneliness to find companionship, love and acceptance. 
There are many online resources that explain the signs and what, if anything, we can do to help the victim.  
And remember, domestic abuse doesn’t discriminate.  
Men are victims too.  
Note: I feel so strongly about those in abusive relationships, here are some indicators.  
Primarily from the site: http://www.batteredmen.com/bathelpareyou.htm 
• "Track" all of your time, doing things like checking your computer history?  
• Constantly accuse you of being unfaithful?  
• Discourage your relationships with family and friends?  
• Listen in on your private phone conversations? 
• Prevent you from working or attending school?  
• Criticize you for little things?  
• Anger easily and fighting, especially when drinking or on drugs?  
• Control all finances and force you to account in detail for what you spend? 
• Become unnecessarily involved in your professional life? 
• Humiliate you in front of others?  
• Destroy personal property or sentimental items?  
• Hit, punch, slap, kick, or bite you or the children?  
• Use or threaten to use a weapon against you?  
• Threaten to hurt you or the children?  
• Demand the password to all your email accounts?  
If you find yourself saying yes, it’s time to get help.  
Are You in an Abusive Relationship? 
A man who had to deal with abuse issues in his own life (and who has started a message board for abused men) looked into the issue of how a man can know if his relationship is abusive. He found two books that focus on women in abusive relationships, but none for men. He has extracted and edited sections from these books, to make them relevant for men. Click here to see what he came up with. 
Ultra-Sensitive Men and Abusive Relationships 
Not just for ultra-sensitive men. Ultra-sensitive men don’t have different reactions to an abusive relationship, often, they have more intense reactions. They’re magnified, and we can see them more clearly. If you recognize any of the patterns you see in this article, whether or not you’re ultra-sensitive, it’s time to look at whether your relationship is abusive. Some clues:  
• Do you dread "talks" with her?  
• Does your pulse rise and your mind become foggy at the mere thought of a disagreement or conflict with her?  
• Will you do anything to avoid the conflict and keep the peace?  
• Do you have inexplicable aches and pains, or tenseness?  
• Are these worse when you’re around her?  
• Do you have panic attacks at the mere thought of conflict, or mere thought of being with her?  
• Do you find yourself looking for a lot more "alone time"?  
• Does being alone seem a lot more calming and appealing than spending time with her?  
If you are reading this and it sounds familiar, it’s time to get professional help, mental, legal or otherwise; not to “fix” them, but rather, to get help for yourself. Those who have been abused tend to abuse others. Seek help, abandon your denial, stop blaming them for everything and do the right thing.  
Cassandra ‘Sandy’ Frost is an award winning e-journalist and editor who has covered the topics of Intuition, Remote Viewing and Consciousness from an Athabascan or Alaska Native point of view the past three years. More of her articles can be found at: